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Hear both perspectives
Watch Holly and me explore a real issue from our different experiences of ADHD in a relationship.
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Understanding ADHD Hasn’t Stopped
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8 videos
6 interactive workbooks
Your Connection Plan
14-day check-in + Start Here guide
Launch bonus: All 16 ADHD Relationship Guides — FREE
Launch bonus: ADHD Relationship Audio Series — FREE
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Understanding ADHD Hasn’t Stopped
The Same Painful Conversations.
The ADHD Couple Reset · With Ryan & Holly
One of you shuts down. The other feels shut out. You both care, but somehow you keep ending up in the same place. Seven guided sessions help you hear both sides, work through what happens in your relationship, and choose what to try next — together or on your own.
7 guided sessions · 8 videos · Fillable workbooks · Your own Connection Plan
£49.99 one-time payment
Bundle normally £74.97 · Both bonuses included free
Partner not ready to join in? You can start on your own with solo workbooks and your own Connection Plan.
30-Day Matrimony Guarantee: Full refund if it doesn't help — keep all your downloads.
TWO FREE LAUNCH BONUSES
16 ADHD Guides£19.99 FREE
ADHD Audio Series£4.99 FREE
Why we made this
We learnt more about ADHD. The hard conversations didn't just disappear.
I don't have ADHD. My wife Holly does. We've been together for 16 years, and learning about ADHD helped us make sense of things we'd struggled to understand.
But there's a big difference between knowing why someone reacts a certain way and knowing what to do when you're both upset.
If one person needs a break and the other needs reassurance, understanding ADHD is only half the answer. You still have to work out what to say, when to come back to the conversation, and how to make sure neither person feels dismissed.
We've made mistakes and we've been through counselling ourselves. We aren't here to tell you that one partner is right and the other is wrong. We wanted something that helps both people slow the moment down and actually hear each other.
That's why Holly and I made The ADHD Couple Reset. Not more advice to 'communicate better'. Seven guided sessions with exercises you can use when knowing about ADHD still hasn't told you what to do next.
Holly brings her lived experience of ADHD. I bring my perspective as her non-ADHD husband and a Level 5 qualification in professional coaching. We're not therapists, and this isn't a replacement for professional support.
Here's how a conversation goes wrong
Five ordinary words. Two completely different feelings.
Imagine one partner says, “I just need some space.”
WHAT THEY MIGHT MEAN
“I'm overwhelmed. I need a moment to think.”They're trying to pause before the conversation gets harder.
WHAT THEIR PARTNER MIGHT HEAR
“You don't want to work this out with me.”They feel shut out and don't know when they'll get to talk again.
Neither person has to be the villain. But unless you understand what was meant, what was heard and what each of you needs next, you can walk away from the same moment carrying completely different hurt.
Inside Session 2 · The Meaning Check
What happened isn't always what you thought it meant.
This is the gap we work on. Instead of arguing over who meant what, you slow down and separate the moment from the meaning you gave it.
An example of how to use the exercise
“I just need some space.”
What happened? My partner asked for space.
What did I make it mean? They don't want to listen to me.
What do I need to ask? Can we take a break and agree when we'll talk again?
The words haven't changed. But now there's a way to talk about the hurt without assuming you already know what the other person meant. That's one exercise. The Reset guides you through six more areas of your relationship.
How the Couple Reset works
Don't just understand it. Know what to try next.
Work through one session at a time, at your own pace. There's a solo route if your partner isn't ready to take part.
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Work through yours
Use a guided workbook to make sense of what happens between you — without having to win an argument.
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Make it practical
Choose two manageable changes, put them into your Connection Plan and check how they went after 14 days.
The full programme
From the first misunderstanding to a plan for what comes next.
Each session takes a different moment couples get stuck in and gives you a way to work through it. You can do it together, or start with your own answers.
When Care Looks Different
Use the Care & Connection Map to see the difference between how you show care and what makes each of you feel it.
What I Meant, What You Felt
Try the Meaning Check: what happened, what did you take it to mean, and how did it affect you?
Asking for What We Need
Use the Clear Request to work out what's underneath the frustration and ask for something specific.
Conversations Where Both Feel Heard
Try the Listening Check. One person speaks, the other checks they've understood, and then you switch.
Making Connection Happen
Plan one Connection Experiment — like half an hour together — and work out what could get in the way.
When Things Get Difficult
Practise Pause, Return and Repair: ask for space, agree when you'll talk again and address what happened.
Our Connection Plan
Choose two realistic actions for the next 14 days. There are separate Connection Plans for couples and for people starting alone.
£49.99 one-time · Instant digital access · Start together or on your own
What you actually get
You won't just watch the videos and wonder what to do.
The videos show you both perspectives. The workbooks help you work out your own. And the Connection Plan gives you something concrete to take away.
A welcome from us plus seven guided sessions. Hear both our perspectives, at your own pace.
Exercises like the Meaning Check, Clear Request and Listening Check. Type into the PDFs or print them.
'Our Connection Plan' if you're doing this together, or 'My Connection Plan' if you're starting alone.
Simple instructions and a check-in to look back on what worked, what didn't and what you'd change.
Normally £19.99 on their own. Sixteen downloadable guides for the moments you might need extra help with. They're yours to keep, even if you request a refund.
Around 25 minutes of additional honest conversation from both sides. Normally £4.99 — free with your Reset, and yours to keep.
Put the price in perspective
A single couples counselling session can cost £150.
The Couple Reset is £49.99 once. You get seven guided sessions, practical workbooks, a Connection Plan and both launch bonuses to use at home, together or on your own.
These are different forms of support: The Couple Reset is self-guided education, not counselling or a replacement for professional help. Fees vary by practitioner, and this comparison is not like-for-like.
Try it without the worry
The 30-Day Matrimony Guarantee. Full Refund. Keep the Downloads.
We can't promise seven sessions will fix everything between you. Nobody can. But you should be able to try the videos and workbooks, and judge for yourself whether they're useful.
If it doesn't help, email us within 30 days for a full refund of your Couple Reset purchase. You can still keep the 16 guide PDFs, downloaded audio, workbooks and Connection Plan.
Just email hello@over-whelmed.co.uk within 30 days of purchasing. No awkward questions.
Before you decide
A few things worth knowing.
What if my partner won't do it with me?
You can start on your own. We've included solo workbook options and a separate My Connection Plan. You can work out what you need and what you can do differently, without pretending you can change somebody else for them. Shared exercises only happen when you're both willing.
How much time do we need?
No set schedule. Watch a session, work through its questions and come back when you're ready. You don't have to finish everything in one weekend or force a conversation before you both feel ready.
Do we need to print the workbooks?
No. The PDFs have boxes you can type into in a compatible PDF reader. Or you can print them and write by hand. The Start Here guide explains how to save your answers.
Is this a subscription?
No. The full programme is £49.99 once. There's no monthly fee, and you don't pay extra for the 16 guides or audio series in this launch bundle.
How do I get the videos and workbooks?
You'll receive access instructions by email after you buy. This is a digital programme — there isn't a box coming in the post. If you have trouble opening anything, email us at hello@over-whelmed.co.uk.
What exactly is the Matrimony Guarantee?
Give the sessions and exercises a proper try. If you don't find them useful, email hello@over-whelmed.co.uk within 30 days for a full refund. You keep your downloaded guides, audio files, workbooks and Connection Plan. Ongoing access to hosted videos after a refund isn't part of the guarantee. We can't promise a particular outcome for your relationship.
Are the 16 ADHD relationship guides really free?
Yes. All 16 guides are included free when you get the Couple Reset through this launch offer. They're normally £19.99 on their own. You can save the PDFs and come back to them whenever you need.
Is the audio series free as well?
Yes. The six-conversation audio series normally costs £4.99. It's part of the launch bundle for free, and the downloadable audio is yours to keep.
Is this therapy or couples counselling?
No. We're a couple sharing our experiences and practical exercises. Ryan also has a Level 5 professional coaching qualification, but neither of us is claiming to be a therapist. This doesn't replace counselling, diagnosis or professional support.
What if our relationship doesn't feel safe?
Don't use a joint workbook to try to resolve abuse, intimidation, coercive control or fear. Do the shared exercises only if you both feel safe and willing. If safety is an issue, specialist support is a better next step.
The first step doesn't have to be a big one
Stop guessing. Have a way to start again.
Seven guided sessions. Real exercises. Two things to try over 14 days. And as a launch bonus, all 16 ADHD guides plus our audio series are included free. You can start together, or start on your own.
Couple Reset + 16 guides + audio series · Normal combined value £74.97
£49.99 · One-time payment
16 guides + audio series FREE · 30-Day Matrimony Guarantee · Full refund if not useful, and keep your downloaded resources
For ADHD and non-ADHD partners. Shared activities are suitable only when both partners feel safe and willing. This programme is not a substitute for professional relationship or mental health support.
